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Surrey weddings: top tips for the mother of the bride

PUBLISHED: 17:27 20 September 2010 | UPDATED: 17:50 20 February 2013

Surrey weddings: top tips for the mother of the bride

Surrey weddings: top tips for the mother of the bride

Being the mother of the bride (or groom!) can be almost as stressful as being the betrothed! Here, fashion designer Fiona Dashwood, of Fiona Dashwood Couture in Oxted, shares her top tips for how to enjoy a stress-free day...

Originally published in Surrey Life magazine September 2010

Being the mother of the bride (or groom!) can be almost as stressful as being the betrothed! Here, fashion designer Fiona Dashwood,
of Fiona Dashwood Couture in Oxted, shares her top tips for how to enjoy a stress-free day...

1 Dont panic
This is a BIG occasion in fact, after your own wedding probably the one day that you really want to look and feel your very best. Stay calm, follow some simple rules and all will be fine on the day.

2 Be yourself
Weve all seen a poor mum stuffed into an inappropriate outfit, looking stiff, uncomfortable and totally unlike her usual self. Your daughter or son will want to recognise you at the wedding! Of course, you want to look special, but you must reflect your personality in terms of colour and style. For example, dont wear a tight tailored skirt if you are usually drawn to soft flowing fabrics.

3 Take your time
Start researching as soon as possible. Try on plenty of outfits before committing to a particular colour or style. Buying off the peg and arriving at the wedding wearing the same dress as one of your guests is a nightmare. Your contemporaries probably shop in the same places as you. Having a bespoke ensemble is the only way to ensure that you have a unique look so allow plenty of time for relaxed fittings. Ideally, designers like six to eight weeks from consultation to completion.

4 I dont know what to wear
You may not know what you want but you do know what you dont like. Its a process of elimination and narrowing down your choices will become much easier if you bear that in mind.

5 Communication
Chat to the bride about her colour scheme and style for the wedding. Discuss your thoughts with the other mother to avoid any clashes. Etiquette dictates that the brides mother chooses her colour first and then the mother of the groom.

6 Be realistic
As we mature it is inevitable that there are bits of us that we no longer want to reveal. Dont worry, this doesnt mean covering up all over! Every woman needs to accentuate her good points for example being measured for a new bra will help you achieve the perfect silhouette.

7 Make the most of your outfit
Theres nothing so expensive as that cheap dress that I only
wore once. Investing in good quality and fit will mean that you will wear your outfit again. Wearing the dress on its own and teaming the jacket with trousers for example. Its all about cost per wear!

8 Accessories
There is a hat to suit everyone and its essential to select the colour and style that is appropriate for the wedding and suits you best. Youll want to kiss people, so dont choose an enormous brim. As for shoes, wear the highest heels you can manage. You may need to practise but there is no doubt that heels add elegance. Discreetly slip into some pretty flats for dancing! Try not to match your hat to your shoes. In photos, this will create a shortening effect.

9 Friend or foe
When choosing what to wear to the wedding, you may want advice. To avoid feeling overwhelmed, listen to just one trusted friend or an experienced professional. Concentrate on yourself. You deserve it!

10 Relax
Its going to be a fabulous day. Youve done your homework, youve listened to good advice and chosen a beautiful design. You know you look gorgeous, so grab a glass of bubbly and just enjoy the day!

  • Fiona Dashwood has gained her reputation by specialising in bespoke solutions for brides and mothers who prefer to look a little more individual. Fiona Dashwood Couture, 71 Station Road East, Oxted, Surrey RH8 0AX. For more information, call 01883 717788 or visit their website at

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