5 ways to prioritise your romantic relationship in 2018

PUBLISHED: 11:51 19 March 2018 | UPDATED: 11:51 19 March 2018

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Hayley Bystram, Founder and Director of Surrey-based dating agency Bowes-Lyon Partnership, explains how you can take back control of your romantic life.

Five ways to prioritise your romantic relationship in 2018. Those family dinners, where we sit with happy couples, or answering questions about our love lives, can make us all consider our relationship status. We wonder whether Christmas 2018 will look the same. The reality is, unless we do something different, we will get the same results. This can keep us stuck on repeat in a kind of Groundhog Day. For 2018 make an action plan to ensure this year is not the same as the last.

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1. Prioritise you

We can find our lives are busy with family, friends, hobbies and work. The to-do list seems endless,and we all complain about the lack of time. Yet, we all have the same hours in the day. If we want a relationship we will need to make space for it. And that starts with making time for dating and making time for you. If you leave yourself, and a potential relationship to the bottom of your list, it won’t get done. You deserve to have someone to share your life with, and you deserve to go higher up on your own ‘to-do list’.

2. Be proactive

It can be hard to meet new people, especially as time goes on. Our social and working circles start to get set, and the opportunity to meet new potential partners decreases. To meet someone new we have to be proactive. Dating apps and online dating aren’t for everyone, but nor are they the only choices. Personal introductions through a professional matchmaker are a discreet and safe way to meet high calibre dates in your area. Investing time and money in ourselves delivers results and sends a message that we value ourselves and our happiness.

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3. Be open

There is a tendency, as we get older, to get more restrictive about who we will date. They must meet certain, but often arbitrary, criteria of height, looks, hobbies or age. Yet, when there is spark, our list goes out of the window. So, whilst it is important to have a starting point – be open to meeting someone who is not quite what you were imagining. This is where life gets exciting!

4. Say yes

Experiment. It’s just a date, not a marriage proposal, so why not just go and see. There will inevitably be some odd dates and some funny dates. That is the rich tapestry of life. We all have the battle scars and the comedy stories we amuse others with. This is the process, the journey. The main thing is to take action and get out there! No-one can fall for you when you’re at home on the couch.

5. Have fun!

When you enjoy the process, and accept it for what it is, you will have more fun. This is a result in itself, but it also has the fantastic side-effect of making you more attractive. If we are too needy or desperate we will repel possible matches. Or by over analysing we can sabotage a relationship before it’s got going, with our self-doubt, pushing or controlling behaviour. Go with an attitude to have fun and you will hold the date lightly and let go of the outcome.

When you enjoy the process, and accept it for what it is, you will have more fun. This is a result in itself, but it also has the fantastic side-effect of making you more attractive. If we are too needy or desperate we will repel possible matches. Or by over analysing we can sabotage a relationship before it’s got going, with our self-doubt, pushing or controlling behaviour. Go with an attitude to have fun and you will hold the date lightly and let go of the outcome.


They say Carpe Diem, seize the day, and a lot can change in a day that’s for sure. But, imagine what can change in a year! You deserve to share your time, your gifts and your life with someone special. Make this the year that you prioritise you.

Hayley BystramHayley Bystram

To see if Bowes-Lyon Partnership can help you find your perfect partner, contact Hayley Bystram on 01483 418958; www.bowes-lyonpartnership.co.uk

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